Memorial Remembrances: Lois Escobar [1956 - 2013]
A memorial letter to the Escobar family and close friends, from Family Caregiver Alliance - August 29, 2013
First, I want to extend again our condolences from the staff and Board of Directors to the extended Escobar family for your loss. Our hearts are heavy today but we also want to celebrate the kind, funny, compassionate, dedicated Lois that we all knew and loved.
Part of Lois's extended family was at Family Caregiver Alliance where she worked for over 21 years as a Family Consultant. She obtained her Licensed Clinical Social Worker credential that we all celebrated as recognition of her growing skills in the field.
Lois was a consultant to family caregiversthose individuals who put aside their lives to take care of others who need assistance. In this job, she excelled. It is safe to say that Lois's clients loved her; her clinician skills to be sure, but also her patience, compassion, practical suggestions and her kind nudging of others to take care of themselves.
Lois facilitated FCA's well attended and highly regarded Spanish speaking support groups. She was also one of the leaders in the creation of the annual Latino Forum for Caregivers. Lois was an exceptional person in many ways; her level of dedication to her clients, her thirst for knowledge, her passion for life, her warm smile and infectious sense of humor and her unique ability to connect with others regardless of differences.
We received numerous unsolicited letters over the years from her clients that testified to her enormous help during very difficult times:
"Lois Escobar was a great help when my Mom first came to live with us. It made all the difference in the world to talk to someone who REALLY understood!! Thank you!!"
"I do not know where I would be if I did not have Lois as a support. My needs are overwhelming to me and she validated and understood exactly what I am facing."
Words like kind, warm, understanding, knowledgeable, 'invaluable help,' resourceful, 'a God-send' were scattered throughout those many notes.
In the office, Lois was like the foundation of the organization: loyal, thoughtful, dedicated, and knowledgeable. Solid characteristicsattributes some might think a little old-fashioned.
Woody Allen famously said, "Eighty percent of success is showing up". That is what Lois did: she showed up. She was persistent and dedicated to her clients and to her work colleagues.
In our frenetic world, we often reward many different kinds of experience but become a master of none. Lois was a master of compassion and hope for her clients; a master of good humor and an ear for listening for her work colleagues; and a master of being a mother, a wife, a sister, a daughter and a contributing member of her community.
These are the real rewards of a life well-lived.
We feel very fortunate to know the members of the Escobar family(Phillip, we have seen you grow up, survive through the difficult teenage years, and make your Mother so proud). We felt quite honored to have a visit on Tuesday from her son Philip, husband Ricardo and sisters Rosie and Maristella. They graciously came to talk with the staff about Lois for over an hour. It was so welcome from everyone, even though it was hard for all to realize that Lois is gone from our daily lives.
We will deeply miss Lois but also know that she did so much good in her life here, and for so many. We will keep her in our hearts always.
NOTE: The Escobar Family has generously decided that gifts can be given on Lois' behalf to the Family Caregiver Alliance. Go to our Donate Page to give a gift in Lois Escobar's name. Thank you so much.
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