Primary Caregivers

Paid Sick Leave Passes California Senate

Congratulations to California workers! In the early morning hours of Saturday, August 30th, California became the second state (after Connecticut) to pass a paid sick leave bill, now awaiting signature by Governor Jerry Brown. The bill requires businesses to provide up to three paid sick days per year for employees who work 30 days or more—a great first step towards helping hardworking Californians. Sick days may be used to care for an employee's own illness, or for that of a family member (child, parent, spouse, domestic partner, grandparent, grandchild, or sibling).

The Trouble with Hope

I had a strained relationship with hope before my wife was diagnosed with cancer.  To me, hope was a high waiting for a low, a fix with a nasty flipside.  Far from the precious entity exalted by legions of poets and philosophers, hope was just another coordinate on the pain/pleasure cycle existing in infinite balance with its opposite.  In the same way that happiness alternates with sadness, or desire with loss, hope alternates with fear. One requires that the other exist. Hope was for suckers, and I was no sucker.

針對有失禁症狀之癡呆症患者的護理建議 (Incontinence and Dementia - Chinese)


  • 與醫生討論失禁問題是否由藥物、前列腺增生或尿道感染引起,特別是突然出現失禁症狀的患者。


  • 研究各種失禁用品。市面上有許多失禁用襯墊和內衣。每個人的需要各有不同,應選擇最適合的產品。在防護內褲中加上襯墊能增加吸收量。不要稱之為成人紙尿褲,應稱作防護內褲。


  • 癡呆症患者通常對穿著防護內褲表現抗拒。可能需要一些技巧讓他們習慣穿著,例如,在早上穿衣服時將防護內褲自然地融合到穿衣的一部分。先把襯墊放在內褲裡,在失禁病人更換衣服或從廁所站起來時,把內褲遞給他們。如果病人表現出抗拒情緒,您可以對他們說「它能幫助我更好地照顧你,這樣我就不會擔心了」,或者可以說「這對您有好處,穿上它您就不用再趕忙跑去洗手間,也不必擔心因此摔倒了。」


  • 使用橡膠或一次性塑膠防護床墊、椅子、汽車座椅等。


簡介 (Grief & Loss - Chinese)





預先制定醫療護理指示及 POLST (Advanced Health Care Directives and POLST - Chinese)


「預先制定醫療護理指示」(AHCD) 是指您指定某人(醫療護理代理人、授權代理人、委託人或代理人)在您不能表達自己意願時為您做決定,也稱為「醫療護理永久授權書」、「自然死亡法案」、「醫生指示」或「生前遺囑」。(生前遺囑在不同地方有稍為不同的定義,請查看您所在州承認的定義。)所有州都承認AHCD,但各州法律不同,因此各有不同的表格。



  • 在您不能表達自己意願時,您指定的人擁有合法權力,可以為您做出醫療護理決定
  • 您可以針對不能表達自己意願的所有情況,制定具體的未來醫療護理書面指示
  • 只要您能做決定,則您自己負責醫療護理決定,除非您另有其他表明
  • 根據法律規定,醫生和您的代理人有義務遵循您的醫療護理指示


Directivas anticipadas de atención médica y POLST (Advance Health Care Directives and POLST)

La Advance Health Care Directive (AHCD, Directiva anticipada de atención médica) le permite designar a una persona (agente de atención médica, apoderado, representante o sustituto) para que tome una decisión por usted en caso de que usted no pueda hablar por sí mismo. También se denomina “Poder notarial perdurable para la atención médica”, “Ley de muerte natural”, “Directiva para médicos” o “Testamento vital”. (El testamento vital es ligeramente diferente; consulte qué se reconoce en su estado).

Consejos para cuidadores de personas con demencia que sufren incontinencia

  • Hable con el médico para determinar si los medicamentos, el agrandamiento de la próstata o una infección urinaria pueden estar causando el problema, especialmente en el caso de un inicio repentino de la incontinencia.

A once virile, passionate Italian was now void of all emotion

My name is Lisa. I’m a baby boomer and so was my childhood sweetheart. We met at 15, and dated until we were married in 1966, just turning 20 years old. We were born in August, and chose that month to marry as well. A lot of celebrating for two Leos.

Our life began rather simply. Living and working in San Francisco, but wanting to start a family, we decided to buy a home in the burbs.

When Caregiving Ends

Caregiving can last for many years. Caregivers set their own lives aside to care for someone else. When that person dies, caregivers have to figure out what to do with their lives now. There is no preparation for this transition. Generally you are so busy caregiving, and life changed so long ago, that there has not been time nor energy or even the psychological will to think about what comes next. Here are some tips that might help you during this time:

A Caregiver’s Bill of Rights

I have the right . . .

  • To take care of myself.  This is not an act of selfishness. It will give me the capacity of taking better care of my relative.
  • To seek help from others even though my relative may object. I recognize the limits of my own endurance and strength.
  • To maintain facets of my own life that do not include the person I care for, just as I would if he or she were healthy. I know that I do everything that I reasonably can for this person, and I have the right to do some things for myself.


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