FCA Blog

Caregiver Wisdom . . . on Control

We Caregivers Are Not the Ones in Control... I have learned in Caregiving that we Caregivers are not the ones in control.  There is no such thing as control for us.  We don't make people sick or well, we only help them as they go through either.  So, all we can possibly do is the very best we can.  Most of us are not trained Medical Professionals anyway, and they mess up a lot.  Still, all you can possibly do is the best you can.  You have no responsibility beyond that if you have done all you can do.

Caregiver Wisdom: The Really Good Caregiver

Family Caregiver Alliance

From the voice of a family caregiver

Dear Caregivers,

I feel there is a tendency to think that only caregiving at home from the beginning of an illness to the end of someone's life is the best care.  And somehow that your devotion and love for someone is only measured by how long you can stand taking care of them. And that that care should only conclude when they pass away at home.  I think this is some really unrealistic thinking.

The Post Discharge Checklist: 5 Important Steps

Two weeks ago, Andrew’s elderly father suffered a heart attack. After undergoing bypass surgery, he is being released to return home. While his father is eager to get out of the hospital and back to the comfort of home, Andrew is hesitant about the transition. There are new medications to take, new specialists to see, and his father requires more assistance with daily activities than he did prior to the heart attack. While he’s pleased that his father is well enough to go home, Andrew’s not quite sure how to handle caregiving after the hospital discharge.

Advance Directives and Living Wills: Bringing Up Sensitive Topics

Karen’s 85-year old mother needs more and more help. Her mother has lived independently in her own home since Karen's father passed away nearly a decade ago. A recent diagnosis of heart disease has both women worried about  future medical problems, the impact being sick has on independence, and ultimately having to discuss end-of-life issues. Both Karen and her mom know that they need to have a plan in place, but neither one knows how to broach the subject without upsetting the other. The end of life is a frightening topic for both family caregivers and their loved ones.

Emotional Support for Spouses/Partners of Individuals with Dementia

Last year, Maria’s husband was diagnosed with dementia. In the past twelve months, Maria has providing  care for her beloved spouse while noticing his symptoms worsen. The man who has been Maria’s partner and best friend for nearly fifty years now struggles to recognize her each morning and is becoming increasingly angry as his dementia progresses. While Maria loves her husband, she finds herself bombarded by an array of emotions ranging from sadness to frustration to resentment.