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Work and Eldercare


More than ever before, caregiving is a significant part of everyday life for millions of families throughout the United States. As our population ages, more families are providing care for an older adult at home, and an increasing number of people will need such care in the future. Current demographic and healthcare trends make this issue even more significant.

  • The massive Baby Boomer generation is at prime caregiving age, and soon many will become care recipients themselves.
  • Although we are living longer, debilitating, age-related illnesses such as Alzheimer’s disease and other dementias, Parkinson’s disease, arthritis, diabetes, and stroke are occurring with increasing frequency.
  • Hospital stays are becoming shorter, meaning more care is needed at home.
  • Women, who have traditionally been the caregivers for both children and the elderly, are now in the workforce and less available to provide full-time care.
  • More men are assuming caregiving responsibilities.

Caregiving impacts not only a growing number of individuals, but their families and their workplaces as well. According to recent studies, 60% of caregivers were employed in the last year and over half of these work full time. The average age of caregivers is 49—a peak year for earnings and for career achievement. Women take on slightly more responsibility for care, but men are also greatly impacted.

What Kinds of Care Do Family Caregivers Provide?

The types of care ranges from personal (bathing, dressing, helping with toileting, feeding) to everyday tasks and activities (preparing meals, providing transportation, handling finances, managing medications, coordinating services, communicating with healthcare professionals). The average caregiver provides care for more than four years, with some care extending for decades. Few caregivers use paid help: fully 76 percent of working caregivers rely only on their families and themselves. At times, caregiving can seem like a second job with the average caregiver providing more than 24 hours of care a week and many providing much more care than that.

Thus, millions of working adults—this year it is estimated one in three households—will be juggling the competing demands of caring for a chronically ill relative, raising a family, and managing a career. Work disruptions due to employee caregiving responsibilities result in productivity losses to businesses of an estimated $2110 per year per employee—a loss of up to $33.6 billion per year for full-time employees as a group.

Negative effects on working caregivers may include poorer health, time lost from work and lower productivity, leaving a job to give care, lost career opportunities, lost employer paid health benefits, and lower current and future earnings, including Social Security and pension income. Eventually 10 percent of these working caregivers, over the time they are caregiving, report quitting their jobs to provide care full time, resulting in an average loss of more than $303,880 each in wages, Social Security income, and pension income over a lifetime.

This fact sheet reviews the key issues that caregivers face; suggests measures they can take to help manage their work and care conflicts; reviews legal options to clarify financial and healthcare decision making; and discusses cost-efficient ways employers can retain valued employees by offering programs that are supportive to caregivers. The resources listed at the end of the fact sheet offer additional information, sources of help, and suggested reading 

First Steps for Caregivers: Assessing Needs

Many community resources exist to help caregivers and their ill or frail relative or friend. Your challenge as a caregiver is to determine how to best utilize the time and energy you have available for caregiving in addition to the demands of your job and family responsibilities.

Taking a team approach is an important step to make your role as a caregiver more manageable and to ensure that your loved one gets the best care possible. When you provide the care for your loved one that focuses in on the aspects of care that are most important to you and that you are best suited to your strengths and skills this sets you up to provide the best care you can, draw boundaries that help you to care for yourself, and enjoy your role as a caregiver. Likewise, when you utilize the support of others that are also using their strengths and skills to provide care for your loved one, it gives your loved one the opportunity to receive the best care and to see that they can get their needs met by others besides you. In sorting out your family’s needs, and deciding where you need help, consider the following steps:

  • Make a list of all you do as a caregiver. For example, I do the grocery shopping; help Mom dress every morning; take Dad to the doctor; pay his bills; do her laundry.
  • Make a second list of where you see gaps in their needs and care.
  • Then circle items that you might be able to delegate to others and the times you need help. For example, keep Mom company and prepare her lunch while I’m at work, or give Dad a ride to the senior center on Tuesdays and Thursdays at 9:00 a.m.
  • Consider what type of care is needed (companion, chore work, food preparation, nursing) and whether the care can be delivered at home, a senior center, an adult day care center, or another location.
  • Hold a family meeting to include as many primary stakeholders in your loved one’s care as possible. It is important to get the input of the care receiver as well, if possible. Discuss what role each is playing in care now and how changes might be made to increasingly help with gaps. This can be an important time to discuss more complicated medical and legal issues. This should be done in an open, supportive environment where family members can identify potential solutions together. The meeting can be held in-person, by phone, or by video conference.

To work through certain family dynamics or conflicts, it’s often helpful to involve a person outside the family. A social worker, geriatric care manager, life coach or other professional skilled in group interaction and family dynamics can be hired to help the family and caregiver make a care plan and, if needed, help with care arrangements and monitoring. (See fact-sheet: Holding a Family Meeting for more information.

  • Determine how much money your loved one or your family can afford to pay for outside help. Generally, long-term care is not covered by health insurance unless you have purchased a long-term care policy. Even then, there may be limitations on what kinds of home care are covered. Medicare pays only for medically necessary care or equipment. If you meet the income qualifications, Medicaid (Medi-Cal in California) may pay for some services.
  • Explore care options in your community or near your loved one’s home. Ask friends and neighbors about their experiences with local services they have used and care providers for hire.

Assessing Your Options

Finding Community Resources

Information and referral: These are services to help you locate local programs and services. Senior or community organizations maintain lists of resources by geographic area to help you get started in finding the help you need. Some employers also offer information through Employee Assistance Programs (EAP).

The Internet provides resource listings and online support groups where you can seek information. Family Caregiver Alliance’s online Family Care Navigator offers information on public resources for every state, including local Area Agencies on Aging. The national Eldercare Locator provides information on Area Agencies on Aging and other services. Even if your parent lives far away, you can find services to help.

Informal Arrangements

There may be chores that can be done by friends, family, neighbors, or faith group members. Simple tasks include preparing meals, providing rides, helping with grocery shopping or laundry, providing reassuring phone calls, and companionship for your relative. Have a list of tasks ready for when people offer to help. Local senior centers or colleges often have programs for community volunteers. Websites such as LotsaHelpingHands.com, Tyze.com, and CaringBridge.com provide password-protected sites to help you schedule help and keep family and friends notified of your loved one’s condition.

In-Home Care

Care at home can be formal (paid) through a home care agency or privately hired personal attendant, or informal (unpaid)—a friend, family member, or volunteer. (Sometimes, through a formal Personal Care Agreement, a family member can be paid to provide care.) If no medical or personal care is needed, look for a caring, responsible person who could be a welcome companion for your relative. Personal referrals are the best way to find this person, or an ad can be placed online or in a local newspaper to search for a part-time companion and chore worker. If care involves toileting or bathing, you will need a person who is trained, competent, and sensitive. Similarly, if lifting the person and/or a wheelchair is necessary, be sure the worker is trained and physically able do the work. Always do criminal background checks, call at least three past employer references, call your homeowners/apartment insurance policy to ensure that they will be covered, and be aware that you will serve as their employer with the responsibilities this entails.

When medical or health care is required, such as giving medications, providing catheter care, or monitoring a feeding tube, you may decide to hire a certified nursing assistant (CNA) or licensed practical nurse (LPN or LVN in California) depending on the level of education and skill required. A registered nurse (RN) is needed only when more complex medical care is necessary (such as treating wounds, or managing a ventilator). Medicare may cover medically necessary part-time care for a home-bound older person in limited, specific situations.

Adult Day Centers

Adult day care centers provide a range of social and therapeutic activities outside the home for older adults and adults with a disability. These centers, located primarily in urban areas, vary in their service mix. Most offer social services and activities in a safe, supportive environment. Depending on the program, some offer transportation, personal health care (such as bathing and incontinence care), and medical or allied health care (such as physical therapy and occupational therapy), may be available. It is important to check eligibility criteria. Some centers may not accept individuals who are disruptive, have certain health problems, or are incontinent (loss of bladder/bowel control). Participants generally attend several hours per day, up to five days a week (weekend adult day care is rarely available), making it possible for the caregiver to go to work assured that the care recipient is in a safe place.


Hospice can be a helpful resource for a loved one who has a fatal illness or is expected to live 6 months or less. They provide some hands-on care, like bathing, and monitoring in home or a facility. Hospice staff are skilled in providing comfort care and pain management. They also have services to provide emotional and spiritual support for the loved one and their family. Hospice services are a free benefit of Medicare Part A.

Other Community Resources

In California, eleven Caregiver Resource Centers (CRCs) provide a range of supportive services to family caregivers of adults with disabling health conditions (e.g., Alzheimer’s disease and other dementias, stroke, traumatic brain injury, Parkinson’s disease). CRCs help caregivers with information, educational programs, and emotional support, as well as planning for and arranging services for a loved one. Most services are free of charge. More information can be found by visiting FCA’s list of California’s Caregiver Resource Centers.

Many other community services are available to help, including care management services, home-delivered meals, transportation services, temporary overnight care, and support groups (for either the caregiver or the ill individual). Your local Area Agency on Aging or senior center can help you locate these.

Residential Placement

When a parent or relative can no longer be cared for at home, it may be necessary to consider a residential facility such as an assistive living residence or nursing home. Arriving at this decision can be quite painful. Both you and loved one are likely to have strong feelings about nursing homes, and financing is always an issue. You may want to discuss the decision with other family members, a counselor, life coach, or spiritual advisor.

Ultimately, it is important to evaluate your loved one’s current living situation and carefully assess how care needs can best be met. Consider your relative’s safety, isolation, ability to be left alone, medical needs, and available help for basic daily activities (e.g., eating, dressing, toileting, bathing, moving around).

In addition, the daily strain on you as the caregiver must not be ignored. If you, your sibling, or parent are the primary caregiver, it is critical to recognize when caregiving demands—especially when combined with work and other family demands—exceed what is possible for you, your family, and friends. If you determine that home is no longer a good or safe place to be, it is time to look at other viable residential care options:

  • Senior residences or Assisted Living Facilities (ALF) offer maximum independence, apartment-style living, and additional services such as meals, house cleaning, transportation, recreation and social activities and, sometimes, an on-call nurse. Depending on the state, ALFs may or may not be licensed to accept Medicaid reimbursement. VA benefits and long-term care insurance benefits cover these costs in some cases
  • Residential Care Facilities (also called board and care homes or adult foster homes) are group homes for individuals who cannot live alone but do not need skilled nursing. These facilities offer help with personal care and hygiene, meals, social interaction with others, and bedside care. They have 24-hour staff in case of emergencies. Depending on the state, this type of residence may or may not be licensed and may or may not accept Medicaid reimbursement. VA or long-term care insurance may also cover the costs.
  • Memory Care Facilities offer care for those with cognitive impairments such as Alzheimer’s disease or similar conditions. This may be its own residence or part of an assisted living or nursing care facility. Facility staff must be trained to handle specific needs and behaviors related to having dementia, and the facility must have locked or delayed exit style doors, an alert system, or an auditory device to monitor exits. Depending on the state, Medicaid may cover the costs of care, or they may be covered by VA or long-term care insurance benefits.
  • Skilled Nursing Facilities (SNF) provide nursing care to residents and must be equipped to administer medications and injections and to provide other nursing functions. Under certain limited conditions, Medicare may pay some nursing home costs, but for a limited time only. Medicaid, VA benefits, and long-term care insurance benefits can be options for covering care long term.

Legal/Financial Issues

If your relative becomes impaired, you may face a host of new legal and financial issues. Typical concerns include:

  • Who will manage the ill person’s money
  • Who will make important health care decisions
  • How to plan for long-term care

An attorney can help you plan for the financial aspects of your relative’s care needs. At a minimum, a suitable attorney should have experience in estate and financial planning, probate and wills, and be familiar with public benefits including Medicaid, Social Security, special needs trusts, tax planning, and housing and health care contracts. Some ways to locate an attorney include: your local County Bar Association or the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys referral service, senior centers, legal aid organizations, or a personal recommendation from a friend or fellow support group member.

Making decisions for a person with an illness such as Alzheimer’s disease or a stroke can be difficult and emotionally charged. The process can be simplified significantly, however, if your parent or relative has completed a Durable Power of Attorney (DPA) and a Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care and Advance Health Care Directive. In some cases a Durable Mental Health Power of Attorney is needed for some kinds of treatment. These documents enable your parent to designate another person to manage his or her finances and healthcare decisions. The legal authority to make those decisions begins only when and if the person becomes incapable of doing so on their own. It’s a good idea to have DPA and DPAHC forms reviewed by an attorney experienced in estate planning to ensure that the person’s wishes are clearly expressed and the information is complete.

If your loved one is already suffering from dementia and does not have the capacity to make decisions, you may need to obtain a conservatorship. A conservatorship provides the legal authority to manage a person’s finances, estate, personal affairs, assets, and medical care. This is a court procedure. 

Using Technology

In addition to providing access to a wealth of medical and caregiving information available 24 hours a day on your computer, tablet, or cell phone, digital technology may also be useful for such things as ordering prescriptions, medical supplies or groceries; communicating with healthcare professionals; staying in contact with friends and family; scheduling home car; learning new skills through webinars; tracking movement; and even visually checking on your relative or friend during the day or providing surveillance of your loved one’s home when you can’t be there.

What Employers Can Do

Caregiving as a workplace issue is now recognized by a growing number of employers. Larger corporations are sometimes able to offer support in ways smaller ones cannot, but there are actions that companies of any size can take to support employees who have caregiving responsibilities:

Work Adjustments

  • The most requested work adjustment is flexibility in work hours. This may include allowing a shift in schedules (e.g., working 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. instead of 9 to 5; a compressed work schedule (four ten-hour days instead of five eight-hour days); a part-time schedule; job sharing; or telecommuting. A limit on mandatory overtime is also helpful. Studies have shown that flexible scheduling improves job performance, decreases tardiness and employee turnover, and increases job satisfaction and retention (even for employees who are not currently caregivers).


  • Human Resources or Employee Assistance Program staff can provide information on helpful Internet sites, local community services, care managers or resource centers, and should provide information about leave programs and other company policies.
  • Training for supervisors enhances understanding of the conflicting demands of work and caregiving and ensures that mandates for family leave and antidiscrimination regulations are met.
  • Various state regulations and certain sections of the ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act) prohibit employers from discriminating against caregiving employees (for example, passing over employees for promotion, stereotyping employees because of caregiving status).
  • Some larger employers offer “cafeteria-style” employee benefits, which allow employees to select supplemental dependent care coverage to partially reimburse costs for in-home care or adult day care. A few companies offer subsidized payments for geriatric care managers.
  • Sometimes larger businesses organize in-house caregiver support groups, informational “brown-bag” lunch sessions, or coordinate with local community groups or hospitals so that employees can attend an outside support group.
  • Some employers arrange group purchase of long-term care insurance for employees, spouses, and dependents.
  • Other supportive, low-cost things employers can do include publicizing a telephone hotline for caregivers, and publishing a list of key contacts or advice in the employee newsletter.

Time Off to Provide Care

  • Companies with 50 or more employees must comply with the federal Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA), which allows for up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave (or 26 weeks to care for an active service member). The leave may be used to care for a seriously ill parent, spouse, or child. Job and health insurance are protected. However, approximately half of US companies have fewer than 50 employees and therefore are exempt from FMLA requirements. Nonetheless, many use FMLA guidelines to provide support for individual employees.
  • Paid Family Leave (PFL) is a mandated benefit that covers caregivers of a seriously ill parent, child, spouse, or registered domestic partner, as well as new parents. California and only a handful of other states currently offer paid family leave. In California, employees may receive up to 55% of their wages for six weeks of leave. Job security is not protected. Workers who already pay in to the existing State Disability Insurance (SDI) system (you will see it as a deduction on your paycheck) are eligible for paid family leave.

Handling Stress

Caring for an ill or disabled loved one can be particularly challenging as you attempt to balance the competing demands of work, family, and caregiving. Negotiating adequate time off from work, coping with tension-filled family dynamics, and having time to cope with your own fears and concerns about your relative’s well-being all contribute to increased stress. Taking care of yourself will help ensure that you are physically and emotionally able to care for your family member. To help care for you, consider the following steps:

  • Be Informed: Obtain up-to-date information. For example, Family Caregiver Alliance has a variety of fact sheets and other materials (see the Resources section below) to help you make informed decisions. A wealth of caregiver information is available online.
  • Ask for Help: Say ‘yes’ when people offer assistance. Don’t try to do everything yourself—a sibling, relative, or friend may be able to assist. Some organizations offer specialized care planning guidance to help you get through the “maze” of long-term care options.
  • Pay Attention to How You Are Feeling: Let yourself feel the sadness, uncertainty, grief, and other emotions that come with caregiving. If you’re feeling highly stressed, consider drawing on the help of a support group, professional therapist, or life coach.
  • Attend to Your Body’s Needs: Exercise is a great stress-reducer. Although your time is limited, try to fit in some physical exercise, even if it’s just a quick walk around the block. In addition, eating regular meals with healthy foods, getting adequate sleep, and seeing the doctor regularly are an important part of supporting your immune system and caring for your overall health.
  • Draw on the Support of Others: Surround yourself with people that encourage and energize you in your caregiving journey. Make it a priority to take time to talk to and get together with those support people in your life.
  • Be as Patient and Flexible As You Can: There will be good days and bad days. Learn how to communicate effectively with your loved one without laying blame. Let go of things that don’t have to be done. Understand that it will take some time to arrange services that address your loved one’s needs, and those needs will most likely change over time.
  • Know Your Limits: Give yourself a break. Remember to schedule some time to relax. “Respite care” is designed to allow a break for the caregiver, and can last an hour, a day, or even a week. A few organizations even offer weekend retreats for caregivers or ill or elderly family members. Check your local resources for helpful programs.

Whether you are caring for a loved one out of love and devotion, or simply being responsible by honoring a familial obligation, assuming the role of caregiver is never easy. Your decision to care may occur all of a sudden when you receive an emergency call from the hospital, or it may be planned, having over time prepared for your relative to live with or near you. In either case saying, “Of course I’ll help and take care of you” is often the best response to a situation when your loved one needs help. Family-friendly workplace policies can go a long way towards making your caregiving journey less stressful and more manageable.


Family Caregiver Alliance
National Center on Caregiving
(415) 434-3388 | (800) 445-8106 
Website: www.caregiver.org
Email: info@caregiver.org
FCA CareNav: https://fca.cacrc.org/login
Services by State: https://www.caregiver.org/connecting-caregivers/services-by-stat

Family Caregiver Alliance (FCA) seeks to improve the quality of life for caregivers through education, services, research, and advocacy. Through its National Center on Caregiving, FCA offers information on current social, public policy, and caregiving issues and provides assistance in the development of public and private programs for caregivers. For residents of the greater San Francisco Bay Area, FCA provides direct family support services for caregivers of those with Alzheimer’s disease, stroke, ALS, head injury, Parkinson’s, and other debilitating health conditions that strike adults.

Other Organizations and Links

Eldercare Locator

National Association of Professional Geriatric Care Managers

Families and Work Institute

American Association of Retired Persons

National Council on Aging

Recommended Reading

Loverde, Joy. The Complete Eldercare Planner, revised and updated.

O’Donnell, Liz. Working Daughter: A Guide to Caring for Your Aging Parents While Making a Living

Goyer, Amy. Juggling Life, Work, and Caregiving.

Sheehy, Gail. Passages in Caregiving: Turning Chaos Into Confidence.


Powerful Tools for Caregivers

Best Practices in Workplace Eldercare. National Alliance for Caregiving and ReACT (Respect a Caregiver’s Time). March 2012.

Loverde, Joy. The Complete Eldercare Planner, revised and updated. Three Rivers Press, 2009.

2015 Report: Caregiving in the U.S. Conducted by AARP and NAC

Understanding the Impact of Work on Family Caregiving by AARP. October 2012.

This fact sheet was prepared and updated by Family Caregiver Alliance and reviewed by Margaret Neal, PhD, Director/Professor at Portland State University Institute on Aging. Updated October 2012. Reviewed by Rebecca Keiser, MA, BCC, Updated April, 2020 © Family Caregiver Alliance 1999–2014. All rights reserved.